Thanks everybody. We will be there for 3 days, so I know DD will have to have some of her stuff out. Plus, two of her cousins will be there, the one DD's age and one in Kindy....DD is doing most things he is and tends to gravitate to older kids in everyday play, so I am a little nervous of how it goes. I would never "show off" so o speak. Just like I dont in everyday life.
I will just have to see how it goes...and have to have DH talk to his mom. I definitly want the family to accept DD for who she is.. Sigh....should be interesting
I really feel for you and the situation you are being put in. I really don't have any advise beyond what has already been written. I, personally, have not had to endure such situations since most of the cousins are a lot older than DD. The only one I have had issues with is an aunt whose middle name has to be competition. I have learned to keep my distance from her because it just isn't worth it.
I will cross my fingers that things go well for you and the extended family.
