Gifted Bulletin Board

Welcome to the Gifted Issues Discussion Forum.

We invite you to share your experiences and to post information about advocacy, research and other gifted education issues on this free public discussion forum.
CLICK HERE to Log In. Click here for the Board Rules.


Learn about Davidson Academy Online - for profoundly gifted students living anywhere in the U.S. & Canada.

The Davidson Institute is a national nonprofit dedicated to supporting profoundly gifted students through the following programs:

  • Fellows Scholarship
  • Young Scholars
  • Davidson Academy
  • THINK Summer Institute

  • Subscribe to the Davidson Institute's eNews-Update Newsletter >

    Free Gifted Resources & Guides >

    Who's Online Now
    0 members (), 117 guests, and 18 robots.
    Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
    Newest Members
    ddregpharmask, Emerson Wong, Markas, HarryKevin91, Harry Kevin
    11,431 Registered Users
    S M T W T F S
    1 2 3 4
    5 6 7 8 9 10 11
    12 13 14 15 16 17 18
    19 20 21 22 23 24 25
    26 27 28 29 30 31
    Previous Thread
    Next Thread
    Print Thread
    Joined: May 2009
    Posts: 229
    renie1 Offline OP
    OP Offline
    Joined: May 2009
    Posts: 229
    hi all
    i have been trying to figure out my DD5 for a long time. She's a push-pull kid. Says she wants to read but pulls back when trying to instruct her. We've suspected perfectionism and also insecurity about not knowing something. She often lies and says she CAN do things she CAN'T because she says she is "embarassed".. I wanted to let everyone know that about a month ago i bought an online version of the Explode the Code series for her. She never did workbooks (for reasons above) but i thought maybe if she could really work independently and not have me even SEE her work that she could drop some of the anxiety.

    At first it was a disaster and i thought i wasted my money. She refused to start on book 1 activities saying they were babyish, too easy, don't make me do this baby work..ahhhhh! so i moved her up a bit (its like EPGY in that you pick a start level) and she struggled but tried to act like she was fine.. well then i backed her up to lesson one without telling her.. and though i think she knows it got easier, she seems to think the COMPUTER did it and not ME.. So for the past couple of days she has gotten absolutely hooked on the thing. I try to act like i am not paying attention. She is moving incredibly fast now. And today i heard something i never thought i'd hear my child say. " MOM, it gave me more challenging work for doing such a good job!".. so she is linking more challenging work with a reward which is just SO important to a healthy attitude about learning.

    I am wondering if anyone else finds the computer a better teacher for our little perfectionists out there??

    Joined: Dec 2005
    Posts: 7,207
    Joined: Dec 2005
    Posts: 7,207
    Renie, What a lovely success you have had! So glad your DD has caught fire.

    I think the take home message isn't about computers being better teachers, it's about 'Each child deserves to be well thought about by at least one person!'

    And you persisted and tried things and took chances until you found something that worked! Yippee! You were her 'one person!' ((little tear))

    My guess is that you've been struggling because her 'range of readiness level' strunk into negative space. That what I call it when 'level 1' looks too babyish to the child, and 'level 2' is way too hard! This can be due to many things, but a steady diet of unchallenging academic work is a prime suspect.

    So the good news is that with this success-after-struggle in her portfolio, her range of readiness level become wider, and it will be easier for her take on the next challenge, and easier for you to figure out what the next challenge might be.

    My son also struggled with learning to read, in part I think because his eye movement maturity was 'only' age appropriate, but quite a bit because his pride wouldn't let him be seen failing at reading 'baby books.' 'NO BOOKS ABOUT TALKING ANIMALS' was his direction about what to bring home from the library. Trying to be light about the whole thing, I asked the librarian if she had any easy readers about weapons or poisons. Everyone thought I was nuts to be worried about his reading progress at age 5, and so I backed off, and just waited until he learned at school in 1st grade at age 6. (he knew all the letter sounds at age 2, and wanted to read from age 3) I wish I had had all of you with me back then.

    DS13 now thinks that if I had tried to teach him phonics verbally instead of pointing to letters in a book, and quized him: If p-a-t is 'pat' what is 'b-a-t?' sort of thing. Who knows? The reader rabit phonic program didn't help him, and I didn't help him, but as he grew, it fell into place. I did better later in Math, but it took at least 3 years to get to where you are now with my understanding of my son.

    Love and More Love,

    Coaching available, at

    Moderated by  M-Moderator 

    Link Copied to Clipboard
    Recent Posts
    2e & long MAP testing
    by aeh - 05/16/24 04:30 PM
    psat questions and some griping :)
    by aeh - 05/16/24 04:21 PM
    Employers less likely to hire from IVYs
    by mithawk - 05/13/24 06:50 PM
    For those interested in science...
    by indigo - 05/11/24 05:00 PM
    Beyond IQ: The consequences of ignoring talent
    by Eagle Mum - 05/03/24 07:21 PM
    Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.7.5