I live in the tri-state area, specifically Northern Westchester county and there is nothing here for gifted education. I noticed on the Genius Denied website there is a map of what states are "giftedness friendly" and New York state seems to be only one of about 4 that does not mandate or fund gifted education which I think is terrible. Everything seems to be in NYC. I just today spoke w/ the principal of my son's elementary school (he's5 yrs old, in Kindergarten) about the result of his reading assessment that I pressured them to do and she said he got to level 30 out of 44 levels and level 44 corresponds to a 3rd grade level. I think they might offer to pull him out to work with a reading teacher and I also asked about math since he can do more than what I think they offer in kindergarten. I guess it will all have to be piecemeal
I totally understand your wanting the school to IQ test, as it's a useful thing to know, and would save you lots of money, but when it comes to programing - the piecemeal approach is much, much, much, much better. It really doesn't matter what a child's IQ is IF ( and this is a giant IF) the school is willing to evaluate the child and keep them in classroom situations that are at their current 'readiness level.'
For example, you might have a child who really will 'even out' in 3rd grade, so what? You still want them to experience the 'learning how to learn' right now that they will get if they are in a learning environment that is a good fit.
If you want the school to test, send a short written note making the request and stating what actual problems are occuring that you would like addressed. They may say yes. But if they are actally willing to do CBA (curriculum based assesment) and then act on their own data, you have something much much more valuable.
Hope that helps,
Grinty