I agree with polar bear. My DD is gifted differently than me, to specifically answer your question. I do have to remind myself at times that there are things that I found easy that she won't, and not to get frustrated by that. But I also am in more awe of her in some ways because there are things that she is naturally better at than I was or even currently am. I try to remind myself to reframe my viewpoint of a quality that may be dissimilar to myself by trying to look at the benefits from it. (I.e. Instead of bossiness, let's look at the self-confidence and extroversion aspects). Certainly there are behaviors in childhood that need to be addressed or changed from a developmental aspect, but if that's not what you're talking about- if you're referring to innate personality and strengths/weaknesses, then the onus is on you to broaden your perception and be creative. It's not easy, I work on it regularly.
(This from someone not on the spectrum as far as I know, but values practicality, brevity, and truth-telling
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