That is a ridiculous accommodation. Even non ADHD kids need help at this age for organization. Other kids can't be expected to 'help' your child in this manner. My DS's teacher at this age expected the kids to have a 'buddy' in class they could ask about missed assignments if they were sick or missed school. Did not work, the other student was not at all cooperative.
You need to go back to your team and try and set up some better accommodations. It's totally normal to expect students & teachers to keep contracts that both student & teachers sign to check that they understand the homework. This is done in H.S. with failing students, and should be fairly common in junior high. My son had to do one with one of his teachers this fall and it really helped. This was a teacher who is known for miscommunicating what homework was due and the contracts was as much for her as me.
Good advice, thank you. I don't know how often I am allowed to "go back." Clearly, what we are doing isn't working very well.
I agree it's a dumb accommodation, especially for 12 year olds. It's not some other child's responsibility to help my child. If *I* have a terrible time getting him to self-regulate and his teachers do, too--it's hard to imagine a kid could do it. LOL!
The other thing that's somewhat salient: the core teachers in this program only have 15 students per class, maximum, in block schedule format. They teach 40-45 students total. It's not the average MS situation...the rationale being the students need extra attention. LOL!
The kids take HS classes, too. One in 6th, two in 7th, not sure how many in 8th. So in those classes, the demand-on-teacher is more typical.
I am not sure where the LOL'ing came from. Suddenly it struck me as outrageous how little support my son has received this year.
LOL!
