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I solve this feeling by planning and saving for the gap year we will take TOGETHER. And reminding him constantly that we are going to Europe whether he likes it or not :-)
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Just wanted to give you heads up, you might not face anything like this, but my dd's first social studies test this year she failed. She was very upset. But it made it clear that she had no idea how to study and had to learn. Thankfully the teacher lets them re-take one test/quarter. She is ending the year now with all As in honors classes. At the time she failed the test some people questioned our decision, when in fact that reinforced the need for the skip. Also, math sometimes resulted in tears (if I can't do this immediatel I must be stupid) but she worked through it and I think we have made progress on the perfectionism front. It was a very positive decision all around for my dd. Good luck!
And the gap year in Europe sounds great!
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If it's any consolation, my childhood has continued well into my late 30s. Yeah I think my dh finally decided he wasn't a kid anymore within the last year or two (around 45). I think a few of his friends are now grandparents and that finally broke the illusion. (We on the other hand have middle school and elementary school children so we have been able to fool ourselves for quite a while).
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Just wanted to give you heads up, you might not face anything like this, but my dd's first social studies test this year she failed. She was very upset. But it made it clear that she had no idea how to study and had to learn. Thankfully the teacher lets them re-take one test/quarter. She is ending the year now with all As in honors classes. At the time she failed the test some people questioned our decision, when in fact that reinforced the need for the skip. Also, math sometimes resulted in tears (if I can't do this immediatel I must be stupid) but she worked through it and I think we have made progress on the perfectionism front. It was a very positive decision all around for my dd. Good luck!
And the gap year in Europe sounds great! We have seen some of the same things in our DD over the years. Particularly "I cannnnn't" when there is actual work to be done. Not a good thing for a child to learn that school is where you go to demonstrate what you already know. A gap year pretty much ANYWHERE sounds lovely to us at this point. We certainly aren't ready to be the parents of a high school graduate. She feels differently, of course. LOL.
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I have the same feelings. It makes me SO sad that my DD will graduate from hs at 16. I feel like I'm loosing two years with my beloved girl. And there is no way she'd want to do a gap year - she wants to go to college at the same time all her friends do.
BUT, there is no way that she would fit in any way, shape, or form with her age appropriate grade or kids. I often remind my self of how selfish it would be to keep my DD in such an inappropriate environment for years just so I can fulfill my own selfish needs at her expense.
Also, totally in agreement with what deacongirl and HowlerKarma say about challenge. While some people might see my DD's very occasional frustration as a sign that she's misplaced in a course, I see it as a rare and blessed sign that she's finally going to actually learn something in school!
She thought she could, so she did.
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Our DD has already assured us that she'll be attending a local university, so she can continue living at home, so we're not facing the imminent loss of our child when she graduates high school early.
Of course, she's only 8, and going into the 4th grade, so her plans may change a bit.
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My ds has not technically had a whole grade acceleration. He just has done more than a years worth of HS before 9th grade. He may choose early graduation or may take a full year of PSEOP at a local college. He has been so much happier with the older peers. I don't regret the acceleration he has undertaken. He has stumbled at times but it has been great lessons for him to learn. He has learned to study and prep for classes better. The most valuable thing he has learn is how to fail and recover from the failure. In his younger years a failure would have lead to an emotional melt down of epic portions. He once cried for a good hour at 5 or 6 because forgot how to spell pistachio. It has been a great experience academically and socially. He was very involved in the decisions made. We never put him in a situation he didn't want to undertake. Hence, why he didn't take a full skip but opted for dual enrollment in MS/HS. If your Ds is on board you're not taking anything from him. You are giving him what he needs.
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Our DD has already assured us that she'll be attending a local university, so she can continue living at home, so we're not facing the imminent loss of our child when she graduates high school early.
Of course, she's only 8, and going into the 4th grade, so her plans may change a bit. Same here (for DD10, entering gr. 6). I'm hoping she doesn't change her mind. She also insists that when she buys a house it will be on the same street as our house is.
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Our DD has already assured us that she'll be attending a local university, so she can continue living at home, so we're not facing the imminent loss of our child when she graduates high school early.
Of course, she's only 8, and going into the 4th grade, so her plans may change a bit. Same here (for DD10, entering gr. 6). I'm hoping she doesn't change her mind. She also insists that when she buys a house it will be on the same street as our house is. my DD5 is begging for boarding school already, wants attend university in England and then plans to spend the rest of her life doing medical experiments in space. i might be doing this wrong... at any rate, it's lovely to hear about some kids who want to be near! 
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