Thank you both!! It is such a help to have people who understand to bounce these things off of before you stick your foot in your mouth.
Eibbed, calendar time is the only math they get in our K so that is their math. They do the calendar, weather, and count by 1s,5s, and 10s to 100. That is sadly it. And you are right about offering twice and flow.
I also asked my MIL who is a seasoned K teacher for her take on my email. She thought it was coming off as a little too pushy and that I really needed them to ASK HIM so that they would begin to understand where he is and that it is coming from him. The examples I listed above all came from my son but better they hear it from him. Here is the revision with her suggestions. Please give me any more feedback you have. I really want to get this piece in place without damaging the positive things we have going so far.
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N was excited to tell me that he got "book box choice" and read Hardy Boys the last three days at school. He really enjoyed being able to choose that. It helped him feel better about things after the "way too easy books" he complained to me about earlier in the week. Thanks for your flexibility with this. He is enjoying many things about your class and really enjoys having you as his teacher. We have been thrilled to see this along with the smiles on his face and his confidence about being at school at xxxxx growing. We are feeling very blessed to have him in your class.
I do have one concern, however. He is telling me that he still doesn't have "any math options" and that he wants "stuff like 9x9 and square root of 81=9". I'd love it if you were able to ask him what numbers he is thinking about or if he has any problems he wants to figure out. He often has problems or ideas he is working on and will sit and work through them in his head or on paper. He usually has several concepts of number work to do each day in his own mind. He loves to do almost anything in math that is novel and on a higher level. We do have some math things that he really likes to work on at home and I'd be glad to share those with you if you are interested.
He keeps expressing to me that he finds calendar time counting excruciatingly boring when his mind is working on problems like 1 million x 1 thousand or counting by 60's or 110's. I am afraid that we are going to begin to see behavior issues if he continues without some math adaptations. I feel a real sense of urgency with this because as time is passing, the window of "newness" is beginning to close and I would hate to see him start on a negative behavior path to deal with his boredom. This has been a choice we have seen with him before when he was required to sit through material he had outgrown. I really don't want him to become a disruption in your class and I see this as a possibility for him.
He was glad to have the Dr. Seuss project to explore and has begun reading his book and sharing facts about Dr. Seuss. Thank you for offering him that. I hope we can have a similarly appropriate option for his math needs soon.
Thanks for the wonderful job you are doing caring for him and working with him!
DS was recently moved to 1st grade math and I still have huge concerns. I realized how justified they were when a girl mentioned that one thing she knew about the number 17 was that it was an odd number. The teacher about fell over from shock that one of her students would know that. So sad!