Yeah, it's complicated. �I think you're looking at developing her self-recognition of her own multifacetedness. �There's personal enrichment and then there's things you do in common with a group and then other things you do in common with your family. �I like that quote in that other thread, "the best life will ever do is to put two great things before you; as you reach for one you lose the other forever.". Such a beautiful and truthful phrase. �
But maybe there's "what goes around comes around" to provide counterpoint, if you misconstrue the meaning and take it literally. �You're bound to run into a similar opportunity again in some form or another. �The best thing to do according to a book I just read, "Your Child's Strengths", is to notice when an activity or event strengthens, energizes, and excites your child. �Eventually you'll refine your understanding of the details of what energizes, strengthens and excites him. �What was she getting out of reading those stacks of books? �That's the element you're trying to isolate and identify to use in future choices and tasks. �I'm a rookie at trying to do this; I just recently read the book. �Maybe ydd feels energized and strengthened by the feeling of being given time to completely consume the preparation experience. �
Maybe she feels strengthened by having completely used every drop of time and resources so she feels she has completely prepared herself. �If that's the case she will be better prepared by learning to recognize her own needs than by learning to struggle. �You're not looking for a place to teach her to learn or struggle a little, you're looking for a place that gives her something to absorb and time to do it. �That's what engages and excites her. �That's only if I put my finger on it right. �If not, you try. �If that's true that's only one part of it, you'd have to refine and add to it.
"What a feelin'"....Take your passion & make it happen!"
So...where's the curriculum for teaching a four year old self-reflection? �Looks like it's time to start teaching her that. �Everytime you see that passion teach her to see it. �You're refining down to the tiniest fragments of what that passion looks like in her. �You're not looking at all for what she's passionate about. �You're looking to recognize HER passion, and what it looks like in her ... And teaching her to recognize what it looks like in herself, over time. �According to what I read that will help her chose better friends and get more satisfaction out of her life's choices.
Yeah, you're not the only one around here that makes long posts. �At least I see other people doing it too and then I don't feel so bad. �And then I remember people here aren't put off by seeing too many words to read, depending on content.
