Hi Geomamma,
My dd5 had a period of about 2 months at 4 where frankly, I didn't like her. I really stuggled, as did my husband.
I think this is the hardest part with these kids. The struggles we go through as parents with our own feelings towards them. Obviously we all love our kids a lot, but when they are so intense it breaks us down, we start to resent them and/or not like them.
It's one of the things that DH and I do well as co-parents - allow each other to have our own down time. It's a MUST for any parent, but especially those with intensely GT children! I agree that you MUST take time for yourselves!