This is on my to do/wish list.
I think CBT would supplement the nurtured heart approach quite nicely and round it out a bit. Nice list, Tallulah. Gives me something to roll around in my head until I get started. I'm reading it, saying, there's me...and there's you, hunny.
http://nacbt.americommerce.com/store/p/83-How-to-Change-Your-Child-s-Behavior.aspxI just like the way that it sounds, rational family living. I want to get everything in place and practice a little bit before they become teenagers, especially with a daughter, if she's anything like me- look out! Like the song says. "There's worse things she could be , than just like me". And if she's not like me I'm not sure I'll know what to do with that either.
Amanda, I would love to talk about that. I've been trying to think about it and to condense or concrete what changes when we turn (mentally) from a child into gifted motherhood. For one, I personally, am trying to go with less over the top creativity and more consistent routines to make it less about what I can do and more about us. It's kind of crazy. Like I used to make my own plans and I helped people a lot just for fun. Now I belong to my husband and kid's and they make plans about their mom and wife. Like instead of doing my own thing and helping them it's like I'm doing their thing, following their plans, and adding to their plans with my own.
OaTGomom. I just read or heard about that, either here or on the nurtured heart cd. Someone said when they start to Think you're demanding or criticizing all the time you should use less words when you're correcting them or asking them to do a chore. For some reason the "you in his head", not the real you, has become a nag. This is not a boy thing. I'm getting over it with my husband. It has taken time for me to see that he really does not complain as much as I think he does -because I can't stand complaining. And I take things as criticism that aren't. It's hard to see what's really happening through your own baggage. And I just learned we are all born with baggage to work on, like the guy in Groundhog Day, either through re-incarnation or ancestral genetic traits, we're all born with baggage.
