One more thing. Your kid is not better than anyone else. I've seen enough people equating intelligence with superiority (including my family) to know that intelligence, like money, doesn't get you class.
I hope I don't sound too bitter or angry.
Hi BC! Glad you hear that you are enjoying CMellon, and that you enjoyed CTY. My son is enjoying his summer CTY camps too. Did you ever consider returning as a camp counselor?
If you ever pop on and see anything I wrote that sounds like I'm equating intelligence to superiority, I'd love a private message about it, because I hope that I never sound like that. I don't even read that into other people's posts - so I guess it must me be - ((red face))
As far as angry and bitter - to me you do sound angry and bitter, mostly because I just don't recognize us in the ways you report reading us, so I'm assuming that your perfectionism is alive and well in high gear. Most books about perfectionism seem to me to address very well the part of perfectionism that gets turned inward, but believe me, there is usually a part of perfectionism that gets turned outward. We are generally a very idealistic bunch, and imaginiative, with good memories,so every mistake my parents made stands out to me in bold relief.
One thing that is true of me, and I assume is true of you, is that reaching greater levels of understanding is one of my key joys. So I invite you to spend some time here with an open mind and see if there is something to feel beyond shocked and appalled. That you've already noticed that we have good intentions tells me that the part of you that wants to learn more is greater than the part of you that wants complain.
You may want to take a look at my post
http://giftedissues.davidsongifted....ups_of_HG_parents_of_HG_k.html#Post90404and ask you parents questions about their own gifted childhoods and see if you can figure out what drove them to some of the excesses and ridgidities that you ran into.
Sorry to give advice when you didn't ask for it, but, like you, I am impatient with the normal slow process of moving forward that sometimes just has to be 'good enough.' You can dish it out, let's see if you and take it
and make good use of it, ok?
((wink))
Love and More Love,
Grinity
