Nan, it comes when they get more enjoyment out of issues and problems than people.
PTP, you have a great point. I saw DS go from being excited about school ("independance! pocket money!") at the start of the year to now this snide person who can't help smirking and making contemptuous comments about his classmates and teachers. But whatever happens, he'll have his books and activities to keep him happy. With homeschooling, we'll have the time and flexibility to pursue different friendships.
The fog is definitely clearing up in my brain!
