This was what I found to support my son's use of the ' only:

http://www.ncsu.edu/ncsu/grammar/Apostro3.html

When he is college age he will no longer need help with his brace because he won't have to wear it any longer. His migraines, hopefully, will not be as severe and he will be allowed to keep his medication with him and take it when he needs it. Using electronic devices to take notes will be allowed so that won't be a problem either. He will not need any help from me.

I am not sure how much his endurance can increase. I would think with the piano practice, typing, and writing that he already does there would be more improvement, but his endurance does not seem to improve at the rate that other people's endurance improves with the same amount of effort. There is a difference. With a lot of work he seems to improve only a little. It is the same with the muscles in the arches in his feet and legs. He gets a lot more exercise than I do with the musical theater dance practices. He also uses a weight machine at home. I am a lot older than he is and I don't have any pain or endurance issues. His dad is a retired army first sergeant who has more energy and endurance than anyone I have ever seen. My son's cousins are football players; one of them was good enough to get a college scholarship. Nobody else in our family has any problem with muscle weakness. My dad is very physically strong even at age 76. My son noticed this difference years ago and asked me if his problems were because of a genetic mutation. The neurologist recently mentioned this as a possibility. He also told us that kids with mild hypotonia and muscle weakness are difficult to diagnose. Sometimes, even with all the tests, you don't find the answer. How do you explain this to other people who think anyone can go to the doctor and get a diagnosis?

So, really, how is he supposed to advocate for himself when I have had difficulty explaining his disability? When his doctors have trouble explaining his disability? We have had people act like they don't believe us--like in Scouts, which is one reason we felt it was best for him to drop out of this. Advancement was based on physical skills, hiking was required, and my son didn't want to be constantly reminded of his disability. It wasn't until he had to start wearing a scoliosis brace that some of the people that didn't believe us finally realized that he really does have some muscle weakness problems and he is not just lazy. They could not see his pain when he tried to keep up physically. They would tell him to stop whining if he mentioned his pain so he didn't until the pain became unbearable. We live in a football obsessed community and when boys are in pain they are taught to "suck it up, don't be a wuss."

He can't tell people he has developmental coordination disorder/dyspraxia which is what he was diagnosed with last year because if they look it up on the internet, it describes some things that don't fit him at all. He is not clumsy on stage, his balance is good, he sings and acts and dances and he plays piano. His handwriting is legible but he can't write as fast or for as long as other kids. He can't do costume changes as fast as other kids and needs help if he has to button his shirt quickly so I have to help with that too. I know that has to bother him but his musical theater friends understand and don't tease him about it.

I can't imagine what it is like for him to try to explain his disability and get told by people who don't understand that his only problem is that he doesn't exercise enough.

Last Saturday, after a rehearsal and two performances and a quarter mile walk to the stage his muscles could not take any more. While all the other kids in his musical theater group went on to have fun at the fair, he had to leave because of the foot pain. A volunteer at the fair noticed him and asked him he needed help getting back to the car. He said no, he just needed to stop and rest along the way. He made it back to the car but the muscles in one of his feet were trembling. Later than night his legs hurt and he took two Equate brand Extra Strength Pain Reliever PM hoping to be able to sleep. It took him hours to fall asleep.

He is looking forward to going to college some day. He just needs a little extra help right now to get through some things other kids are not dealing with. We have not found anyone else with SPD wearing a painful scoliosis brace and also dealing with frequent migraines. Right now I think he needs a little extra support and understanding so that he can be successful and I will try to provide that support as long as he needs it.