Jamie.
I feel for you becuse I was agonizing over a similar question only a few months ago. Here is what I have lerned, what became clear:
- they have to be involved, even young kids need to express their opionion, so talk to them and their input will be invaluable - it might actually change your perspective!
- they younger they are when grade skipped, the better - they do not overanalize things so much when younger.
- look at your daughters as individuals, the fact that one is grade skipped, doesn't mean the other automatically has too - this was my biggest eye opener.