I can second what Jen said-- for a short while we sent our DS to the aftercare program at our school. Run by nice, well-meaning people, fine for many kids, not fine for ours. He became very anxious; there was no structure, he couldn't find his place in that environment, it was too unpredictable.
We ended up doing better to hire college students to pick him up and tutor him/play with him after school. More work for us to find and hire them, but it gives us great flexibility and less anxiety.
DeeDee
