Looks likes I must have too much time on my hands if I'm sitting here just thinking about what other people are thinking. �
"Gifted children shouldn't be raised any differently than any other kid". �I keep seeing that posted. �I can think of a few ways a gifted child should be raised differently. �If I believed my boy was less gifted I would be teaching him to rise to a challenge and persevere through a difficult task. �I believe he is super gifted so instead I teach him consistency, routine, following steps slowly rather than efficiently. �They don't want to know what he can do; what they want to know is if he can do as they say. �(this is to get him ready for schoolwork, obviously).
If I was raising a child I believed was less gifted I would try harder to teach him to think critically about right and wrong and justice and how not to let people manipulate you. �Because I believe he is super gifted I am instead focused on teaching him supreme self-control �because smart people are held to higher standards. He needs to always look like he kept control of himself, even when antagonized unjustly because he will be judged by different standards. �People will tell a smart child "since they're smarter" they should always be in the right so much so that when someone else else is intentionally wrong, the one who's at fault is the smart one for being involved, regardless. �I know some kids and even teachers will bait him and he will be judged by a higher standard. �
I've given this some thought. �I may be wrong and you all know my kid's very young. �I just really believe that's how the world is and it won't change as a whole to meet his needs. �But at the same time I believe the world has more to offer him than I do.
Super smart people don't need an iq score to be targeted this way, it's just the way the laws of nature show up. �So what then is this subculture of "I hate the word 'gifted"? �Granted iq tests only measure your ability to take a test, and only on the day it's given. �But, so? ��
I keep seeing this posted too, "you raise the kids you have, not the ones you've dreamed about". �Amen & Awo-men! �If every kid's raised the same I have to assume you mean if every parent treats all their own kids the same, you wouldn't say every parents the same. �Why would you treat every kid the same? �Are you not really looking at them? �Are you replacing them in your head with homogenized imaginary children? �This is more about making a relationship about you and how you want to act than about a relationship with a real live child.�
Last edited by La Texican; 08/26/10 05:35 AM.
