Other than the finger biting incident, she's always been exceptionally well-behaved in public. A few weeks ago she grabbed a toy away from another kid (the only time I'd ever seen her do that) and immediately (of her own volition) apologized and asked if she could use it. She's probably literally the best-behaved kid I have ever met.
Okay, I'm thinking that if you can point out just two incidences, one of which was justified (toddler's rarely stop and say, "Excuse me, would you mind taking your finger out of my mouth?") and one of which is standard little-kid behavior that she precociously apologized for on her own, I'm thinking that these behaviors are so rare for her that you certainly don't need to check the box. If this issue is a problem for her, you probably wouldn't be able to pick out just two instances. And, you don't need to feel guilty about telling a half-truth. I think we gifties sometimes feel the need to explain things in depth with all the caveats and exceptions, when really people just want a general overview. And the general overview for your DD is that she is well-behaved and not violent and is not acting out in anger. Her actions may be "grossly inappropriate" for an adult, but not "grossly inappropriate" for a 4 year old.
