Welcome.
My DD is not usually a very demanding kid (though she's been a bit more so since we recently moved). She still needs suggestions once in a while, but mostly she does great. I sometimes find myself spouting my mother's line: "If you're bored, you could always clean your room!" It used to drive me nuts when my mom said that, but in retrospect I think she was right. Running yourself ragged trying to entertain a 4-year-old, especially with a baby in tow, is just no good.
As for the drama, I've often said that one of the things I love about my DD is how she always expresses her emotions.
She will wail like a banshee if she scrapes her knee. It doesn't bother me, and I haven't tried to stop her. I once saw a friend's child get hurt and he didn't make a noise, despite the tears running down his face. It seemed so strange to me. I wonder if he was ashamed to admit that he'd been hurt.
