Grinity,
An example, dd just got through with her weekly Tae Kwon Do class and told her instructor that , "In sword training, when we hold the sword this way that it's an acute angle."
What? Who does that?
I rest my case...........
So are you wondering how she knew that it was an acute angle?
Unsurprised that she knows what an acute angle is, but wondering why someone would connect a school idea to a non-school setting?
or
Unsurprised that she is making the connections, but mortified that she doesn't monitor herself more closely and prevent herself from saying things that would discomfort other people?
or
Just wish that she would act the way kids her age are 'supposed' to?
All of the above are feelings, and if they are your feelings then you can't be wrong for having them. However, you got them from somewhere - either you got treated that way, or you saw other kids getting treated that way, or you lived with someone else who had gotten treated that way so often that they chronically approached the world from that perspective - and you
may want to choose to dig around and loosen them up a bit so that maybe some other feelings that are more 'true to your life' might emerge.
But wanting your child to survive this world is a primal need, and if you have somehow gotten the message that part of survival is 'being regular' then yeah, you will get a strong stress reaction. Add to that the dynamic that you can't talk about this in most setting (any settings?) and you've cut off one of your best stress relievers.
We are mostly a very intense bunch, and it's totally OK to have feelings of intense hate toward the idea that your child is different in this particular way. It's just something to know about yourself. Most of our kids will feel this way at some point in their growing up, so it really helps to have felt through this spot in advance, and makes us better parents.
Since you aren't necessarily going to want to act on this particular bunch of feelings, it really helps to keep venting here about how strange she is, until you are ready to start posting the same stories on the 'ultimate brag thread.' ((wink))
More Stories. More Stories. More Stories.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
