Tks Kriston. Yes, spiritedmama, I too have become a total nut when I think of the next meeting, *faint*. Trawling these pages have been so helpful - I never would have dreamed that I could offer suggestions for accommodation, let alone have them accepted by the school. It was a post from this forum that set me thinking.
I'll be copying from Master of None's post - I'm with my son daily, and his teacher is too (well nearly). We have some idea of what he needs and are giving it to him. In fact, he's allowed to join the external competitive math prep class purely on merit (I'll get his teacher there to write something). The Gifted Board has other ideas after one or two meetings with DS that I don't feel I have the energy to change. But I hope they'll let the people who have a a closer working relationship with him to continue helping him out.
And yes, I like it that we have homeschooling options. DS is begging for it actually, although DH is against the idea. But now, I KNOW that I can't do worse than the school

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