I hear you Grinity, but having gone the party route, as the young one in the group, I feel overly cautious.
And if we stay in NYC or go to Toronto, the options are more advanced classes within the age group.
But I also feel lucky in that there shouldn't be anything she can pull on me, having "been there".;)
Anyway, I put out my opinion and my oversight rules as DD grows. I wish everyone the best of luck on this one. I think girls are just more vulnerable. The chance of some 18 year old wanting to date a 14 year old boy is not as likely as a 18 year old boy wanting to date a 14 year old girl.
Ren