I have no real advice to give except do what you need to do and go with what YOU know is right. I imagine the director gets a lot of parents who "think" their baby is "gifted" and wish to have them pushed ahead... so when people like us with really advanced kids come along... we're just another "one of those" parents. I know it's hard and I wish you luck. I'm grateful that I'm in a position to not have to worry over it. Since I'm homeschooling my kids... we can go at whatever level they need to be at without people telling me I'm wrong.

Even if she isn't allowed in... you can always supplement with interesting things that she's "in" to and hope they'll move her up later.