Was your ds reading already at that point? Dd says she can't but then sometimes she does...
DS was reading fluently at that point, but that's not what the teacher was interested in during the visit. She wanted to see how he would fit in with other kids, behave in a classroom, follow directions, etc. DS actually wasn't able to do the math the kindergarteners were doing that day (he was 3.5 at the time!), but the teacher was really impressed with how he handled that (he flipped the paper over and came up with something else to do). If your school is fixated on age, I'm sure it's the behavioral/social kinds of things they'll be most concerned about as well.
I found one other place which is a little more expensive, but if it's only for a year I think we could do it (though don't like the idea of moving her here there and everywhere). They are 100% ok with 4's in K, thats what they do, so I have at least got that as a back up.
Although my son is the youngest in his class, because he's at a school that does accept 4-year-olds, there are others in his class that are close to his age. I like that that makes his age less of an issue.
One other nice thing about sending him to a school where kindergarten is ages 4-6: when people ask me why he started so young (skipping past friends, neighbors and cousins), I just explain that his school's enrollment policies are different from the public school's. It takes all the focus off me and my son and puts it on the school!
