I've never seen that Hoagies article CFK. All the rules are great, and #1 is especially useful in that post-testing fog.
Unfortunately in this case it will come out at some point due to the structure of the program. It would feel disingenuous of me to use evasive maneuvers against those who will only find out through the grapevine anyway. Though that strategy would at least make me seem more modest, if less like a confidant, and certainly less like a dork as when I get flustered. It has been easy up to this point to keep quiet, which is more my nature anyway. But now I feel the need to find a way to talk simply, succinctly, and graciously about the matter. When I rehearse in my mind I say a sentence or two about how great our local school is, about DS's 'uneven abilities' and about finding the 'right fit', but without the stammering-followed-by-yammering-on-and-on that I pulled on that poor mom yesterday.
CathyA's take is kind of a middle ground that appeals to me. Though the information is embedded in the name of the school, a quick question about their situation would take the pressure off of me to give more information than necessary unless pressed.
Gratified, I've been in that situation as well, one time dancing with another mom for weeks and weeks as neither of us could bring ourselves to go there or say the 'g' word. Quite comical.
