If you have had repeated meetings in which nothing happens and the months keep going by, I believe they are stalling you. I'm familiar with this technique because it has been used on me. They are counting on you being polite, smiling and sending that nice thank you note afterwards. In the meantime, they do nothing.
I agree with the advice to go in knowing what you want. Maybe read a book on negotiation to prepare for the meeting. Take notes at the meeting and send an email afterward with your notes. Involve your district and state gifted coordinators in the discussion. Let them know you will escalate if needed. One mom I know gave a deadline and poof the issue was resolved on the day of the deadline.
