When we had our 'big' meeting I requested that everyone who could possibly need to be there, be there together. I had a folder. I had my list of goals on the front, in simplest terms. In the folder I had any and all supporting documentation or paperwork I might need and knew exactly where it was. When the teacher support person mentioned a prior report card incorrectly I had it in the folder to support my stance. When they discussed a portion of IDEA, and how it didn't pertain to GT kids, I had the supporting summaries saying that it did. So in that sense I think you want to have all your ducks in a row so you can keep yourself on track and support your views. I think anything else would be considered offensive.
My biggest recommendation would be do determine where your line is. What do you really want to have happen? What is a reasonable compromise in your view? What are your plans if they aren't willing to work with you? It also helps to have something positive to say about what the school/teachers have done that is working. Thank you letters are definately needed in my view, especialy when dealing with people that technically don't 'have' to do anything according to the laws.
Last edited by melmichigan; 02/01/10 02:22 PM.