TT - sorry to hear that there is friction at home between you and DH. Personally I think would like to encourage you put some attention on learning to nurture yourself in your current marriage relationship. It's hard to support your own giftedness when you are with a partner who is or appears hostile, but it can be done. I think it's extra important for you to have some peers who will appreciate your Giftie Qualities. I think that a marriage between people any kind of difference can work as long as there is
a) mutual respect
and
b) we grow to become strong enough to demand mutual respect.
Demand isn't quite the right word. 'Move toward' or 'envision' or 'set our intention' might be better.
Is your DH's IQ score accurate?
If you have reports, take a look at his subscales. He could be like nono5's DH and have such a big spread that a FSIQ is meaningless. Or, he could be an Introvert who 'is deeply self-engaged intellectually' and wasn't able to show the tester much. It could have been a group IQ test, which are less accurate, or take a look at this:
http://cty.jhu.edu/ts/stb_index.html(You can PM his subscale scores to me - please don't post them publically here, ok?)
As for DD, I think at age 3 the best thing to do is track her Ruf milestones, and just assume that the one test is simply one test. If your gut is telling you that she is more 'like you' then
a) you are her mom, and perceiving her accurately or
b) you have something clouding your vision, so do some journaling and keep the basic self care strong so you can 'uncloud.'
Either way, the more you support yourself as a Gifted Woman, the better parent and spouse you will be.
Sounds like your standards for 'making it through school' are a bit higher for your DDs than were when you were in school. That's a good thing.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
