TwinkleToes,

I feel like we are treading very similar ground. And I, too, have wondered whether the large IQ gap is part of the issue. I often feel like DH and I are speaking completely different languages (and I'm the one speaking English). There are also those "soul" issues that you mentioned, but I wonder if even some of those are at least related to PG personality traits.

(Sigh.) Is there hope for building bridges across the divide? I hope so.