Wyldkat,
I am so sorry to hear what happened. Does your report of his behavior mean nothing in terms of the results? Can you video tape the meltdowns or keep track in a journal for a week or two to demonstrate what is really happening on a regular basis? Who was doing the testing? What is the agency? I would beg/plead/demand that they reconsider. It sounds like you have a little boy (and parents) desperately in need of some help. Are there any other places/people that you can seek out for help?
Keep talking, keep seeking help and don't give up!
My thoughts are with you and your family.
