The problem is that now we're looking at possibly getting an actual diagnosis, I'm all freaked out. It's like gifted denial, but the other way around. I'm having to let go of the last hopes I had that Bear really was normal, just extreme... Now I'm terrified that they will take a look at him and throw their hands in the air and say "We don't know what to do with him either" or getting a diagnosis, but with nothing that can be done about it. argh....