LOL - I can not think of how to turn 'curly hair' into a character attribute!
'Yes I love how it shines because of how clean she keeps it!' maybe?
((shrugs)) I'm all for adapting to individual situations!
And what is it where curly hair kids want straight hair and vise versa?
I think conditional praise is good if it is specific:
"You are waiting patiently, and that shows me how strong you are on the inside."
"You are using your inside voice and that shows me how considerate you are of my tender ears."
One thing is clear: This is a bunch of parents who are thinking and questioning about how to be the best parents possible. I think we should all pat ourselves on the back for that!
Grinity
