Thanks everybody. We will be there for 3 days, so I know DD will have to have some of her stuff out. Plus, two of her cousins will be there, the one DD's age and one in Kindy....DD is doing most things he is and tends to gravitate to older kids in everyday play, so I am a little nervous of how it goes. I would never "show off" so o speak. Just like I dont in everyday life.
I will just have to see how it goes...and have to have DH talk to his mom. I definitly want the family to accept DD for who she is.. Sigh....should be interesting