Sorry I didn't mean to give the wrong impression as to my interest. I am involved in my local gifted resource group. We hold meetings for families of gifted preschoolers and this topic has been of interest. I use the example because I thought it helps explain where the confusion is in understanding the difference. I would not ever interfere with a mother's decisions and to each his on. I'm just trying to understand whether or not there is a difference. It's interesting and has brought on some good discussions in our parent group. thanks