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I guess my rambling point is that getting into DYS is one little bit of help you have for your child and as long as you don't let them define themselves by DYS, I don't see where it matters what truth you tell them as long as they are sensitive to the other 99.9 percent of kids in the world.
Parening is hard! Balancing is always one thing that makes it tricky. That
fair is not equal is something that is really hard to grasp. My parents expected better grades of me than my brothers. It drove me nuts that they'd get a high five for a B, and I got a frown for the same B. I "knew" it was the right thing, but it still made me feel it was unfair. I guess back then (elementary) I thought was smarter, and then more was expected of me. I did not consider personalities. I am pretty sure my younger brother would score higher on an IQ test, but he never cared for that school recognition. I did, we are probably still in a similar range, but personalities were just different.
I wonder about the sibling issue as well. I did get to relax a lot. My 4 year old just got tested on the WPSSI, and her verbal score was 99.9 (but not high enough for YSP). Since English is our second language, I fully expect her to get the required number in a couple of years. Achievement wise, she is not interested in academics yet, but I guess once she takes off, and she is 6 or older, we'll go ahead with testing to see if she will qualify.
However, from how it looks now, she would qualify on verbal only... we'll see; there is no crystal ball. Funny also, younger one appeared much smarter when super young, but not as much as sister, now at 4. Who knows what they will look like in 2 years!
Thanks for your post.
