Do you think tantrums related to perfectionism should be treated like tantrums seen when a child doesn't get his/her way? In other words, do you give consequences to those meltdowns (punishment) or do you help the child through it? Ds often has major meltdowns when something doesn't work the way he thinks it should or if a task is too challenging. We ask ds to go to his room because while we understand that he is frustrated, we are not willing to listen to screaming. He knows that we're fine to talk about what's going on civily when he's finished with his meltdown alone in his room. He usually comes out and says, "can't we just talk this out?" It still doesn't seem to stop the metltdowns, however. I'm at the point where I'd like to just give a punishment and try to irradicate this behavior, but then on the other hand, I think he needs some sort of outlet for his frustration. Maybe he'll just grow out of it? Thanks.
