My DD's K teacher would do little mistakes on purpose and sometimes by accident and make an example of herself. She would say that's ok and forgive herself. I asked her to support this ideas in her class if she could fit that into her busy day. She is a wonderful teacher. I try to do this at home too.
Also helpful to us have been to let the spilled milk be no big deal. Letting a child clean up or at least helps let's them fix a mistake. This can help a harsh conscience.
My best learning life lesson times are away from the moment. At bedtime I say I noticed this today...see what she says, don't judge and just listen. See if she comes up with a solution or just expresses her feelings. Try not to offer advise unless she asks sometimes.
Hope this helps somehow. We still have some trouble with this but it's getting better. I think I will have to work with this on my kids for a long time. My husband has a hard time with his mistakes.
Don't worry about being long note. Everything can be complex. My post are long. I really have to work at my writing to communciate the right ideas.
Best of Luck! Keep up the Good work.
Last edited by onthegomom; 10/30/09 11:00 AM.
