So kids freaking out because you open their wrapper too much when they wanted to do it themselves or because their graham cracker broke and isn't a perfect rectangle or you closed their automatic door on the mini-van or you buckled their seat belt or you wiped their bottom when they wanted to do it or you gave them an understanding look when they were upset and they really wanted you to look the other way or you put the wrong chair up to the sink because they had to have the chair in the other room... I could go on and on and on... so that's not normal????
It's my normal - pretty much all the time. I think some of that is just normal behavior for my 3 year old. ds5.9 is in K and I am really concerned about how he can possibly make it through a full day at school when he is so sensitive to things being not the way he thinks they should be. He is now telling me he doesn't want to be himself, he doesn't like how he looks and he wants to be a spider (he loves spiders so that is his escape). I have asked the teacher if the counselor can visit with ds. I haven't heard an update yet. When I went to visit the classroom for the first time last week, I was alarmed at how unfocused he was. He seemed unfocused and not paying much attention to the teacher. I tried to get him to complete the task assigned however he only partially completed it because he is a perfectionist and kept starting over and used up all his time.
He is very intelligent - can tell you all about the human body and many of it's functions. He'll tell you in great detail everything you would want to know about spiders and insects. He is always describing new inventions he has come up with.
However in K, he is asked to do things he dislikes... he doesn't like to write. It is a struggle for him. He was asked to draw a picture of himself. He goofed around and didn't complete it so he had to come in during recess. That's when he told me he didn't want to draw himself because he didn't like the way he looked. If I was a teacher, I'm not sure that I would see his intelligence in a class of 25 kids. I might just see a kid that doesn't really pay attention and has trouble focusing. What's a mom to do?
