hi hboy. I can totally relate to you and I can remember searching for answers as well. My story is quite similar to yours in that I am a therapist as well that specializes in little kids and mental health. I always knew that my DS5 didn't meet criteria for anything, but I felt like things weren't quite normal. I always knew he was extremely advanced from a young age but didn't know that could be causing the behaviors I was seeing. He actually was a great easy going kid until about 3 or 3 1/2....he started acting out a bunch when I put him in a preschool. I never could understand it. After doing some research the whole Dabrowski's excitabilities totally fit. About 5 months ago we had testing done and determined that he is a PG and how different his mind works. He still gets annoyed at things and started to become agitated just this morning when his cereal bar was crumbled upon opening it. He almost didn't eat it since it wasn't whole. I could go on and on. We definitely have had our issues. I can't really explain the behaviors but can say that we had those issues with DS and worried that it would never go away. He got in trouble at most of his schools until we put him a Montessori school and he was actually challenged. He had another period of behavior issues about 2 months ago and it lasted a couple weeks. But overall he has matured in a lot of ways and temper tantrums have decreased and aren't as big at all. He will occasionally say his things when he is mad that usually include things like "mom, I am never going to speak to you again for at least 65 minutes because you are saying things that so mean and rude to me" when tell him to go to his room for doing something really wrong....and will stomp all the way up there. But like I said, he is doing much better and some days he doesn't even go to time out at all and has no discipline issues all day. I agree with CathyA that we would often see major behavior issues, followed by some new skill or big leap. It's crazy. I wish you the best, stick around here more and you will see how similar others are as well.
Advice?
Well...lots of patience. Don't bother talking to him about what is bothering him when he is in the middle of a fit and let him (and you) settle down before talking. I found that I tried to be logical about things a little too much. It wouldn't work for me to say "it's just a cereal bar, get over it" when he was 3...although I am able to say more things like that now at times thankfully. Anyhow, I could go on and on...but you know all this stuff. LOL, I have taught parenting classes and it is still difficult sometimes when you are in the middle of it.
