wow! this apply so much. DH actually tried hinting to the teacher that DS4 is advanced so that he can get some challenging work. But it was not well received, instead that resulted in the beginning of the negative saga. Also DS4 is yet to be tested so I don't know if we quote him as gifted, will they buy it? His previous teacher was not willing to let him try double digit addition on parents night saying that was advanced work and when I said oh, let him try as he is already doing it at home, the expression at her face was priceless as if we are not good parents or we have said something really bad.
We know DS4 is super sensitive to fairness issues. We have observed in his play-dates that he gets frustrated and at times angry when he sees other children not following the rules we expect him to follow. I will quote an incident : He knows that he is not supposed to take others toys without asking "May I please have it". Now we had this other kid over and the moment he entered the house he started playing with DS4's toys without asking. DS4 got so upset that he wanted that kid to go away almost immediately. We reapeatedly told him that he should share and he is good at sharing but he was not ready to listen and had a huge melt-down. Later that night before bedtime when I asked him why he was not ready to share, he said that the other kid didnot ask him to share, he was not behaving properly and why we didnot say anything to him.
