Hugs, that sounds hard. We had a few similar issues with DS at nursery - although I'm happy to say that the staff dealing with him seemed more perceptive than your DS's teacher, and continued to perceive his good qualities as well as the problems! They did use time-outs which we didn't use or approve of, but we reckoned that asking them not to was probably a step too far (we did tell them that we didn't use them at home, though, which may have influenced what they did with DS). What we found helped was talking to DS-then-3 quite explicitly about what time-outs were, why some people used them, why we didn't, etc., chiefly dwelling on the fact that at home we had plenty of time to talk to him about issues but at nursery the staff were dealing with lots of other children as well and might not have enough time to talk. There's a fine line to tread between recognising one's own child's normality and trying to get other people to recognise it too, and helping one's child to fit into environments that can be quite different from home. Good luck.
