Oh Belle!
Ug! I'd pull him NOW. What a mess! So sorry.

I loved all the suggestions, including your own of starting with the local businesses. Maybe you could make the 'mentor search' part of the homeschooling experience itself. I like the book 'wishcraft.'

It occurs to me that a possible long term compromise is to look at neighboring districts and keep talking to people until you find one who willing to work with you. Sometimes these school are much closer than 45 minutes.

Best Wishes,
Grinity

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