Thank you for your post Dandy. It has certainly strike a chord with many here. I feel it especially so that the kids are starting a new school.
I sent out an "extremely" polite email (in my view) enquiring about school support for DS9.
I received an almost immediate response of "we know where your DS stands,(from results from entrance tests and recommendations from teachers/ psychologist from previous school) BUT, based on our experience, students who are good in some areas lack certain skills in others..... Class room teacher should be given a few weeks to access her students... blah blah blah. "

Well, you get the gist. Dh said it simply meant that "don't bug us" We know what to do with our students. I felt so dejected after receiving the response. I would think the least they could do is to allow a meeting with the parent and find out more!