My DS9 has had very big feelings since he was little. Sometimes leading to tantrums. Often, his reactions have seemed so ridiculous.
One thought that comes to mind, when he was very little he would get very mad because the peanut butter cracker sandwich came apart and their was no way to fix it good enough for him.
Well here's some things I do to help:
Let him know you understand, don't laugh at the reaction. Also let him know this is too big of a reaction - Is something else bothering you? A sensitive child needs to feel understood.
We have a conversation time at bed time and talk about stuff that might come up during the day. Talking away from the moment can have amazing results. Try not to give advice unless they ask & don't judge. (This can be hard) Listen. Tell them if they talk about feelings, the feelings get smaller and more manageable. Ask what was the worst & best part of your day. How did recess time go today? Did you play with anyone? How did it go?
When I have a bad day I read a parenting book to try to get focused and be more understanding. I like "Children are from heaven". If we seek to understand we can be more tolerant.
I wish I could say I had this all perfected. I just keep trying to do my best. It's a constant challenge. Get outside as much as you can with the kids. That has amazing healing powers.
I wish you peace.
Last edited by onthegomom; 08/19/09 07:20 PM.
