It can take a teacher sometimes 4-6weeks to get to know a kid. Often the teacher has to come around in her own time....and don't use the b word - death sentence. I agree w/ you on the library program. sigh.....

hugs.... definitely call a meeting and focus on DS's emotional state. Be sure to have written down what he says in quotes. Ask DS what he wants and states that. Don't use "I." He wants, He says, He would like.