no5no5 (and everyone else!!)thanks SO much for offering such a more calming stance....I hope I didn't come off as being upset or anything- def. not judging at all..your post was exactly what I needed to read today!!...sometimes with writing, I can't quite get across what i want to say and hope I didn't sound upset because I was the opposite - just frustrated with trying to find the right combination :-) I love, love, love hearing from other parents in this situation and everyone just gives me new perspective to an issue so thanks to everyone for the awesome posts...because with having a HG kid and then add in the OE issues, I honestly can't go to my "normal" buddies for suggestions because they just don't always understand DS.
Our problem here at home is that we are SO low key and do lots and lots of talking/brain storming with DS when issues or problems arise and have had friends tell me that we do too much sharing and talking and we need to do more disciplining....I grew up in a you do it my way or its the highway mentality and I was scared to say boo and so I walked the straight line and sat in the box that everyone wanted me to fit in....I don't want to do that to my little guy...which I guess is why I am SO frustrated in trying to find the right balance! I think all of us moms should publish a book with all of our suggestions and ideas!!!!
The anger management issue has come a long ways - He didnt have a mad bone in his body until he was 5...last year he was just angry about everything and I think it all stemmed from his really, really bad year at Montessori preschool. He was so frustrated, bored, lonely..you name it and he slowly turned from being a quiet, pretty happy go lucky little guy into a mad little guy. With his sensory issues, it was a double edged sword because when you have a sensory seeking kid, hitting something or somebody as an anger release actually causes a good feeling for a sensory child...so after the first few small hits, he realized hey, I get to release my anger and it feels good to my body to hit...so it got more frequent and worse. When we pulled him from the setting and homeschooled him, it just about disappeared with just a few bouts here and there...then in the past month, it has arisen again..not as bad, but enough to make us stand up and take notice. I don't know if it is stemming from being worried about going to public school this year (which was his request)..I have no idea...but hitting others is just not allowed no matter what the case...and then we are dealing with just the typical kid being a kid behaviors :-) So thanks SO much to everyone for trying to help a frustrated mom :-)
