I wish there were more answers, options, support groups, etc. for twice exceptional kids like ours. My son really wanted to find other kids his age who were like him and he could only find them online in another country.

We went to the neuropsychologist looking for answers for my son and I was asked questions about homeschooling like "What do you do when you are not feeling well and can't homeschool?" I told her that he learned well on his own and in fact seemed to learn more when he was learning on his own so I didn't think it was a problem. "Are you part of a homeschool support group? No, because it was more of a homeschool clique and we were shunned after I talked openly about wishing the public school would allow part time school for my son. "Why don't you put him back in school now, it will only get harder the longer you wait." Because even the superintendent told me we needed to homeschool or put him in private school. They are not required by to provide an appropriate education for twice exceptional kids. "Why don't you put him in private school?" Can't afford it. "Some private schools offer scholarships." There are none in the small town we live in. We would have to drive at least 30 miles to the closest private school. "But he needs to be with other children" I would worry about this if he were not in musical theater with other kids--I didn't tell her he was taking a break this summer. We are trying to make sure he gets help for his motor issues so he can stay in musical theater and keep up with the dancing and the physical requirements of Boy Scouts. We want to confirm the motor dyspraxia diagnosis but we also want to know if it is normal for him to have pain and sore muscles after walking shorter distances than his much older parents can walk. She told us what we described sounded like it could possibly be mild hypotonic CP because there isn't usually pain involved in motor dyspraxia and she said his difficult birth could have caused his issues but we need to see a neurologist. We told her it took 4 1/2 months to get in to see her and we were told the other doctors had even longer waiting lists and that is when I vented--at the doctor's office. I described all the difficulty we had in getting help for him and how the doctors didn't screen for dyspraxia and sensory issues and we had to find answers on the internet from people on message boards and then go back and try to get referrals and wait for months to see specialists and then when we did insurance only paid for 6 sessions of OT because it was something the school should pay for but he was homeschooled and the school doesn't provide these services to homeschoolers even though it was the school superintendent who told us to homeschool in the first place. I described how I felt when adults were not nice to my son when he had trouble with physical things because of his disability and how they didn't believe me when I told them about the disability. I had held it back for so long and it just came out. That is what happens to me if I try to keep it in, so it is good to vent in a safe place.

So far all I have gotten is more questions, no real answers yet, but we have to go back to get the test results on Monday for more pieces of the puzzle. My son, is a little worried about what they might say, but I told him we had to do this so he could get the accommodations he needs if he ever goes back to public school, or Boy Scouts, or whatever he wants to do.

I have often wondered about the long term psychosocial effects of being highly sensitive and gifted and living with a mild disability that other people don't understand and have trouble believing because they look so normal and sound so smart.