My son is 3 and deliberately the opposite!
My DD7 does pretty good, she thrives on routine,
When I am having a problem I usually send them back for the redo and after they do correctly then I clap and say in my perkiest voice "yah! what a great job, I so proud of you!!" They usually remember better if I get silly and I usually get less aggrivated if I'm acting goofey!
Goodluck