I dunno; couldn't the girls' quiet reaction to a pace that's too slow or too fast constitute a crisis as well? Girls get rewarded for staying quiet and not making waves. By rewarded, I mean that they don't get into trouble, but they also don't get extra attention because no one knows they need it!

I'm not sure I like the "do what you're told and things will work out" message that's implicit there. It may carry through into their later ability to deal effectively with an adverse situation.

All I can say is that I typically won't get what I want or need unless I make noise. If I stay quiet, no one even knows anything is wrong.

Just a thought...

Val

Last edited by Val; 05/05/09 04:31 PM. Reason: clarity