my friend recently took her DS6 to a psych. She was having HUGE issues with him. The psych said whereas today, many parents are all about giving kids more choices, empowering etc...kids really need less choice. He recommended giving her son no choices as this was a HUGE issue for him at the time. An example was: here is your blue shirt and black pants to where today. Son: I'd rather wear the red shirt. Mom: Ok, put the blue shirt away and get the red one. NOT: Here is a choice of a blue shirt and a red shirt, which do you want to wear? This results in ying-yanging as he debates the pros and cons of each. Mom gets irritated b/c they are late, Kid gets upset and starts to cry....etc. If he initiates the choice, let him but otherwise don't give him a choice. Things have been MUCH better and he's much more secure in his choices that he does make.
