ok, I am totally beside myself on this and wondered if maybe this was a gifted thing or a perfectionistic thing or just a pain in the tukus thing or all 3 or something completely different! My DS6 for the past several months has had this horrible habit...when it comes time to make a decision about something HE is doing, he asks me what I would like to do. I give him an answer/opinion and then he goes to doing something completely different...like he is afraid of making the wrong choice. Which I have NO idea where that comes from since we are about as laid back as it gets and we are doing unschooling at home.
For example....he LOVES train simulator and will spend forever constructing his own track layouts - this is our scenario the other day..."mom, which station do you think I should use?" and I ask him which one he likes and after a few seconds of talking I give him a suggestion...he replies with, "nah, I think I want this one." 5 minutes later, "which engine do you think would be the coolest to use on this track layout?" and again, I ask him which one he likes and he will get upset that I am not outright giving him an answer ..his reply, "well, I think I like this one better." Then comes time to run the route- "which switchpoint do you think I should send the train through?" I answer - I don't know and he gets upset and says, "just pick one!" and so I offer a suggestion and of course he uses the other switchpoint.
Today he did it again while he was playing on his Nintendo DS - he asked which level he should do on a certain game and when i responded that I had no idea, he got upset. We finally sat down and I told him that he can make his own choices, decisions without having to ask me all the time. He didn't have an answer when I asked him if there was a reason why he always asked me about his choices. I know he is a perfectionist and when he makes a mistake he will literally either rip up, erase, delete, whatever it was he was working on and start from the very beginning all over again. If he comes in second or doesn't complete something correctly he will visibly be upset. We have been searching high and low for a counselor who has experience working with 2e children to maybe help him with his perfectionistic issues. Any clue about this choice thing or how to help him?
